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Jamie Ridler

Jamie Ridler is a creative living coach. Her website, Jamie Ridler Studios, is a valuable resource for anyone who wants to pursue their creative dream or even just incorporate a little more creativity into their life. Jamie provides one-on-one and group coaching, hosts online communities, offers creative courses, publishes a weekly podcast and writes a wonderful email newsletter. Everything she does seems grounded in kindness. She is truly one of the nicest people I know. Jamie resides in Toronto, Ontario, with her husband, Justin, and their cat, Jinx. She has inspired me many times, so it gives me great pleasure to feature her here.

1. Jamie, you’ve written that you were a late bloomer and detoured around your creative path many times—that it took awhile to reach the level of creative success you’ve achieved. When your life circumstances were pulling you away from your creative path, how did you manage to keep your creative spark alive?

In a word: journaling. Journaling has been a constant and a lifeline during the difficult times, particularly when I was finding my way. During one major turning point, I worked passionately through The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron. I wrote morning pages (3 pages of long-hand freeform writing) every day and that’s what started to shift things. I could see in black and white what I was yearning for, what I was upset by again and again. I could see what had to change and the direction I had to go. In my writing, I came face-to-face with my self and with the “me” I wanted to be.  Journaling helped me see, acknowledge and commit to my creative path.

2. Many in the creative blogosphere have gotten to know you from your wonderful online community, Wishcasting Wednesday, and the accompanying Wishcasting Journal. For readers who might not be familiar with Wishcasting, can you explain what the process is? Can anyone participate?

Absolutely, everyone can participate! On Wednesdays, I share a prompt for wishing. It might be, “What do you wish for your body?” or “What do you wish to create?” or “What do you wish to say no to?” You can answer in your journal or answer in your heart. If you have a blog, you can answer in a post, share your link and you’ll find other Wishcasters coming by and supporting you with our shared phrase, “As you wish for yourself, so I wish for you also.” A beautiful, loving community has grown around this weekly ritual. It’s magic.

I also created the Wishcasting journal as an offline way of developing this powerful practice. The journal has 52 prompts that you can answer at your own pace, in your own way. Open the journal at random in the morning and make a wish! Bring it to life by writing it out, drawing it or gluing in pictures of what you’re dreaming of.  By developing a regular practice of checking in with our hearts and expressing our desires, we invite magic and possibility into our lives. After years of Wishcasting, I’ve seen the truth and beauty of that again and again.

3. Each Tuesday you publish your podcast, Creative Living with Jamie, where you interview inspiring people who are following creative paths. How has conducting creative interviews deepened your own creative process?

Amazingly so! I feel so blessed that I have this opportunity to chat with people at different stages and in different disciplines about their creative journey. There are moments when we’re both nodding our heads (and I know the audience is too!) because we recognize the same places, the same fears, the same joys. And there are times when someone shares something and it opens up a whole new way of thinking, a whole new range of possibilities. This happened for me when I interviewed photographer Tracey Clark. She opened me up to whole new ways of playing with my camera. I had in my mind that I needed to understand f-stops and apertures before I could use them. Tracey helped me see that I could experiment. I could take a shot, shift the settings, take a shot and see what happens. That was a revelation!

Being in conversation with great guests and amazing listeners helps me discover what our core concerns are. As creative spirits, where do we get stuck? What strategies help? What do we adore? What questions keep coming up? What inspires us? I find this wildly creatively exciting. It sparks my curiosity, fuels my sense of vision and inspires me to help. It drives what I do at Jamie Ridler Studios, helping me share great content and design classes, products and services that are really rooted in what my community wants and needs.

For example, the number one challenge I heard from everyone was time. That’s why I created my new e-course, Sparkles. It is a series of 31 simple daily creative prompts brought to you by an amazing group of inspiring teachers and designed to spark your creative spirit in 5 minutes (or less!) a day. I keep telling everyone – it changes everything when you Sparkle!

4. I really like the way you use social media. Your Twitter feed and Facebook page are both brimming with positive inspiration, and you seem to genuinely enjoy engaging with your followers. As a self-employed creative professional, how has social media benefited your business?

Thank you so much, Marilyn! I just love social media, especially Twitter. For a solopreneur, it is such a gift to be able to connect with all of these amazing people every single day. It’s like stepping into the coolest lunchroom and having fun and fascinating conversations with inspiring people all over the world. How good is that?!

And yes, it has absolutely benefited my business. I have received invitations to teach workshops, guest post, participate in events, contribute to products and be on podcasts, all from people who’ve come to know me through social media. I have also developed inspiring entrepreneurial friendships. Every month I meet with an amazing group of women innerpreneurs here in Toronto; we all met through social media. I have gained a community, clients and opportunities and had a great time meeting, connecting and sharing with the most amazing people from around the world.  I love it.

5. Let’s talk about The Elder Sister Project at Roots of She. We don’t typically see a lot of conversation about aging at creative sites. What compelled you to tackle such an important topic under a creative umbrella? What sorts of themes do you hope to explore?

This project has been stirring in me for the past couple of years. I’d been thinking a lot about aging myself and didn’t really feel like I had anyone to have a frank, compassionate discussion with. Conversations about aging seem to be limited to self-deprecating jokes. I wanted to feel connected to other women. I wanted to know what they were going through. I wanted to know if I was alone in feeling what I was feeling. With The Elder Sister Project, I quickly found I wasn’t!

The conversation has been amazing, inspiring, thought-provoking and real. No doubt there is a lot of tenderness and privacy around the topic. The rawness of what people shared with me behind the scenes has been deeply moving. I hope that the series has at least started the discussion. I encourage anyone who’s been inspired by it to continue – write an article, write a story, write to the media and say you want more real stories on this, create a photo series (I did one of me from when I was a baby until now). I’ve written about what our worries and questions are, about our relationship to our bodies, how we see ourselves, how we change over time, how we can empower ourselves through shifting our questions. I covered a lot of ground in the series but it’s only a ripple on the surface. There’s so much more that needs to be explored!

6. Dance is typically perceived as a young person’s medium and activity. As a dancer who’s also exploring the shifting landscape of aging, can you suggest a few simple ideas that Elder Sisters can incorporate into their daily lives to experience the joy of dance?

Dance is my first love and helping people come to their dance is something I’m called to do. The simplest thing of all is to pick a song, just one song, and dance. Just dance. Don’t worry if it’s just a shuffle. Don’t worry what you look like. Close your eyes. Close the door. Let your body feel the music and move. We are born to move. Look at babies, how they move all the time – wiggle, wiggle, wiggle.  That impulse brings us alive.

If it feels really awkward and you don’t know what to do, choose one part of your body to dance. Put on that song and say, today, I’m just going to move my hips. I’m going to let me hips respond to the music. Or today, I’m just going to dance with my hands. I’m going to lie here in bed with my iPod on and let me hands do the dancing. Or my feet. Or my fingers. Just start. Your body will thank you – and so will your spirit. Dance belongs to everybody. And it belongs to us for a lifetime.

7. I love that sophistication is one of your style touchstones. How does city life in Toronto enable you to unleash your sophisticated side?

I love you, Marilyn! I’m a city girl through and through. I love coffee shops and book stores, galleries and movie theatres, museums and amazing restaurants. Toronto has all of that and more. There are so many events in Toronto you couldn’t possibly do them all! You could go to a book launch one day, dragon-boat racing another, take a hooping class, grab a meal in Little India and finish your week off with a candlelit night of storytelling.

So how does a girl dress for all that? I’m a big lover of simple elegance. I want the same outfit to take me everywhere, (okay, I’ll change for hooping) and I want to be able to move. I love walking through the city and seeing what’s going on, so comfortable, awesome boots are always a win! It often surprises people too that I’m pretty formal. I’m not a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. Not even at home. I’d rather sparkle. I like to dress up. I like special occasions. I like a sense of event and grandeur and I love to create opportunities for that.

8. You’ve shared that one of your recent goals is to be a more adventurous traveler. What destinations are you hoping to visit in 2011 and how will those trips help you to meet that goal?

This whole traveling thing has been absolutely amazing! Early last year when I set the intention, all of a sudden I had so many places to go! I went to the Kripalu Center to assist Jennifer Louden on retreat. I went to Portsmouth, NH for a fantastic workshop with Alicia Forest and visited some awesome blogging friends in the Boston area. I spent an incredible week in San Francisco for my brother’s wedding! I’m still beaming over how it all came to life!

This year I’m planning to go to Portland for Chris Guillebeau’s World Domination Summit (and thank you, Marilyn, for your awesome Portland recommendations!) I’m going to Nova Scotia to visit my sister, Suzie the Foodie. (You can imagine how spoiled I’ll be with good food there!) I’m going to Portsmouth again in the fall and Justin and I are thinking of a weekend jaunt to Chicago! 

Travel has become a part of my life and I love it! The next big challenge for growing my traveling confidence will be going someplace where I can’t rely on English!

9. You’re always so sunny and positive, yet everyone has off days and needs downtime. When you’re feeling depleted, what steps do you take to nourish and recharge yourself?

Absolutely! Shifting gears is a big part of it for me. I’m incredibly driven and can really throw myself in, so when I’m getting depleted I need to “slowly step away from the computer, Ms. Ridler” and go for a walk, hang out with my honey, read a book, go to a movie, take a Nia class, watch some bad TV, crochet. But my ultimate favourite refresh experience is to go to the spa. It gets me outside of the house, so I can’t get tempted to do more work, and connects me to my body, reminding me to love and take care of my life and my self. A half-day getaway - a relaxing facial, a delightful lunch, lounging with a book in a quiet, beautiful environment – is like a mini vacation for me. I always feel like a new woman when I walk out the door.

10. Let’s end the interview with some Wishcasting. Jamie, what do you wish to manifest in your creative life in the next year?

I have so many wishes! I wish to build a loving, talented team at Jamie Ridler Studios so that I can get even more amazing inspiration out there and serve even more creative spirits! I wish to spend more time in my body, dancing, running, finding my way into yoga. I wish to expand my knowledge of video making so I can bring more ideas to life – maybe even a documentary. I wish to invest in beautiful jewellery. I wish to relearn how to drive (I’m scared to say that one out loud because then I’ll have to start doing it!) I wish to spend more time in studio spaces. I wish to fill my practice with creative breakthrough sessions. I wish to launch a new offering called “Studio Time with Jamie” where you come play in the studio with me and we discover your vision and create a plan to get you into action. I wish to shine a light that inspires more and more people to awaken their creative potential. I wish to be a light in the world.

 

Website and Blog:  Jamie Ridler Studios

Sparkles e-course

A Year of Dreams

Workshop in a Box:  Soul Reflections – The Home Edition

Your Creative Spark: Inspiring Interviews with 12 Highly Creative Bloggers

Podcast (every Tuesday):  Creative Living with Jamie

Wishcasting Wednesday (every Wednesday)

Full Moon Dreamboards (Monthly)

Twitter: @starshyne

Facebook:  Jamie Ridler Studios

Shyne Like a Star Virtual Dance Party (Every May 1)

Colleen Wainwright

Colleen Wainwright, aka the communicatrix, is a writer, speaker and marketing consultant with an  extensive background in acting, advertising and design. She helps her clients figure out how to put forth their best selves. Even more impressive, she can help you be your best self. I think of her as one of my gurus—she just doesn’t know it. Colleen is smart, thoughtful, funny and not afraid to dig deep. She writes a kick-ass blog and a terrific monthly newsletter under her communicatrix banner. I’ve read her blog for many years and I'm very excited to feature her here. 

1. In 2010 you took a “self-imposed sabbatical.” What fueled your desire to take some time off?  Were there key areas of your life where you wanted to manifest change, or did you enter the sabbatical without specific goals in mind?

I didn't even enter the sabbatical with a sabbatical in mind.

Toward the end of '09, I did decide to close shop for the last two weeks of December. Even that much of a break is unusual for me, unless I'm forced into it by ill health or a grouchy significant other. But coming off of 2009, I sensed that if I didn't take a break, something really, really bad was going to happen. I'd narrowly avoided a full-on Crohn's flare earlier in the year, and there were other indicators as well: increased alcohol and caffeine consumption; sudden, inexplicable bursting into tears in the shower. (You may have some passing familiarity with the drill.)

Another contributing factor was my decision that fall to start private lessons in Nei Kung, an internal form of chi gong. No doubt all that chi moving around for the first time in a decade played a role in my decision to quit acting like a complete jackass and give my body a break.

Anyway, at the end of two weeks I was still zonked, so I decided to extend just a wee bit into January. Then end of Q1. Then, oh, how about May-ish? 

Finally, somewhere around mid-July, I conceded what I probably knew all along: I was looking at a full reboot. I stared at the numbers in my long-term savings account for a day, took a deep breath, changed my "Hire Me" page to reflect unavailability through 2011, and that was that. (Oddly enough, a big job for January came in over the transom after this. Modern-age voodoo, as Roz Chast and my ex like to say.)

As for goals, I didn't establish any until mid-February. I ended up choosing ten, per Ginny Ditzler's excellent Best Year Yet goal-planning system, which I'd been using faithfully for four years to map out the coming year. This time around, though, I did a few things differently.

First, I partnered with a friend. He kept me a little more realistic about what I could reasonably do vs. the magical sparkle-pony fantasy agenda I usually dreamed up. Secondly, for the first time in my life I chose mostly "boring" self-care goals rather than hard-ass business goals. To read more books, for example—something I deeply enjoy, but never give myself time for. To practice my Nei Kung daily, get back on my Crohn's diet 100%, see friends twice per week, feng-shui my apartment from top to bottom. I even made "recover from breakup" a goal—with a deadline and action items! I did better on the "me" goals than the business goals. In fact, I've failed, or fallen way short, on my three business-y goals, and accomplished all of the personal ones. Quite a turnaround.

In hindsight, I think taking the sabbatical was my effort to gain clarity. I turn 50 in September, and that's a hard number to be cavalier about. I wanted to head into the back nine with the confidence that I was actually living my life, not sleepwalking through some carryover bullshit notion of what I thought a life was supposed to be when I was 20 or 30 or even 40. I'm not all there, by any means; I don't know that I'll ever have 100% clarity. But I do finally have some real, rooted confidence in my ability to judge what is right for me.

Finally, just to call out the elephant in the room, I realize that this was an insanely great privilege, being able to take this kind of time off. My intention was—and is—to gain clarity around my talents, such as they are, and my interests, so that I could start making a difference in the world. I'm not leaving a flesh-and-blood legacy, but I can (I hope) leave a useful body of work.

2. An overall theme in your writing last year was about downsizing—minimizing possessions and virtual distractions. You even titled one of your recent newsletters, “Adding by Taking Away.”  What have you gained by decluttering your physical and virtual spaces?

Part of what I've gained, of course, is actual physical room. It makes moving around one's apartment much easier, and helps one realize considerable savings on bulk buys of paper products. 

Seriously though, my home is a much, much nicer place to be in now. I've been able to arrange things to suit my creative process, which I've discovered requires surprising amounts of cleared horizontal space for working, and restful, clean space for preparing food and relaxing. 

Psychic room is a little harder to quantify. I feel happier and more myself now, but this could also be a function of exiting a relationship that was no longer serving me.

Another big gain happened via the *process* of decluttering itself. I was amazed at how good it felt, how deeply self-caring, to take the time and energy to physically transform my space from something gross and icky and dirty and crowded and sad-making into something lovely, fresh, lively and clean that supported me. Damn, it feels good! It's made me much more aware and respectful of the necessity for and benefits of thoughtful attention to "soft" things in general.

However, there is yang to all this yin (or vice versa), which is that you start to see some of the things that had been safely hidden from view under the murk: filthy walls and dirty floorboards, for example, or really ugly habits and truths you'd deftly avoided by obfuscating them with crap. (For more on all of this, please see A&E's horrifying-but-compulsively-watchable show, Hoarders.)

It's definitely a journey rather than a destination, especially if you have the packrat gene. (Again, cf. Hoarders. Highly sobering stuff.)

3. As a marketing consultant who loves the power of a good decluttering, do you ever tell your clients to do a bit of un-marketing?  If so, what’s one tip you like to give people to help them streamline their marketing plans?

Oh, my, yes. It may be what started me on the road to decluttering—that and my ex-boyfriend's attic. Seeing someone else's stuff and how it holds them back is much easier than seeing your own.

My #1 super-trick for better marketing is to get really, really clear on your objective, your goal. It's rarely easy, but it's far more effective than futzing with your blog theme or revamping your business cards or retooling your online-to-meatspace networking mix. When you're not clear on what it is you want—which takes time and reflection and sometimes outside help—the rest of it is just rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.

But if you want a "trickier" trick, I'd say to ask yourself where most of your business or your clients come from, and then forgo something else to take better care of this area. For most people, it's referrals. Most folks—myself, included—are really abysmal at cultivating referrals. If you start tending the network of loyal fans you already have, you'll be amazed at what starts to shift.

4. You’re a big reader and seem to be a disciplined one. You set a goal to read 52 books in 2010, with a daily goal of 40 pages a day. What did you find to be the benefits of a reading schedule?  Do you plan to continue that schedule in 2011?

The big secret to my self-discipline is my total natural lack of it. I have the attention span of a highly distractible toddler who accidentally drank his mom's coffee: a kind of permanent, free-floating case of Shiny Object Syndrome, as an old art director so aptly dubbed it. Hence, the immense benefits of routine. You don't have to think about stuff; you just have to do the stuff you're supposed to do! It's really quite freeing.

So for me, it was incredibly easy once I figured out the routine: I'd wake up, I'd make myself a cup of tea, then I'd get back in bed and read my 40pp. It's a little tougher now, because I'm trying to add in a morning walk first thing, and obviously, you can't take a walk first and read first. 

But I'll figure it out. The main thing is that I rediscovered how great it is to read regularly, and to read books, instead of just bloggy stuff. (Not that there's anything wrong with that! This blog, for example, is awesome!) It really kicks your idea-generating machine into high gear, not to mention it being a great way to learn new stuff.

5. I know you love hacks—those little shortcuts that can make our tasks just a little bit easier. Can you share a couple of your favorite new hacks that you’ve incorporated into your life recently?

Twist my arm, why don't you? Okay, here goes:

*Learning ONE keyboard command from my most-used programs.* Lately, I'm all over Command-H (which is "hide" on the Mac—it makes a live program disappear) and, in Evernote, Command-Control-F, which lets you search your entire Evernote archives. (I heart Evernote, big-time.) In addition to speeding things up, there's a sense of accomplishment in acquiring a skill, which I think leads to more self-confidence, which is just better for neurotic, self-loathing anxiety cases like me. So even if neither of these two work for you, learning a few key commands for your favorite programs will be a big win-win. The kaizen way—incremental tweaks to improve performance—is, I find, a far more useful way of approaching change. Maybe that's the true hack here.

*Dragging files into x.* Okay, I just finished talking about not picking up my hands from the keyboard, but dragging a URL from the address bar onto the Evernote icon in the dock and watching it turn into a note is pretty much the most satisfying thing ever. I think you have to upgrade to the paid version to do it; I never tried it before I bought in. But it's awesome. Ditto with dragging pictures or URLs onto the Skitch icon, which, again—sorry—I think you have to pay for. Hey, maybe actually paying for the tools you really love and use—i.e., having the best versions of them—is really the hack, here. Oh, and if you have both paid Evernote and paid Skitch, you can pretty much rule the known universe. (Man, I sound like a total ad for them, but I'm seriously in lurve with my software.)

6. The first time I read that you were attending Toastmasters, I was surprised because you already had years of acting experience under your belt. Then I realized that public speaking and acting are two very different animals. When you step on stage at events, which instinct kicks in first—the acting or the public speaking one?  How do the two skills complement each other?

They're hopelessly fused at this point. The gift of acting—the "inside-out", Method kind, anyway—is learning how to reliably open yourself up to being a channel of truth. Public speaking training is more about outside-in stuff: developing your voice, removing distracting tics and "um"s, etc. There's a bit of crossover in the training around stuff like sovereignty; in both acting and speaking training you learn to hold your ground, to not piss away your power with unnecessary movement. And of course, speakers are also learning how to write and structure material. Actors have to really work hard to learn this, via scene study and analyzing film scripts and literature and such. Most of them are too stupid or narcissistic or lazy to do this, unfortunately, which really limits their abilities to work except as the vessel for someone else's truth, which can really limit their ability to work, period.

In my monthly column for actors, I'm constantly hammering them to develop these "tangential" abilities. I feel they're integral to one's development not only as a true artist but that they're the key to a longtime, successful career as a professional. 

7.  What’s just the right amount of social media use for your taste?

My cop-out answer is "enough to feel connected, not so much that I'm neglecting my real work." Most days, it ends up being several check-ins with Twitter and Facebook, a few postings to delicious/Google Reader, and perhaps a blog comment or two. (I like to get them, so I think it's only fair to leave them.) 

On bad days, I do too much of it, and feel awful at the end, like when you were a kid and ate crap all day at the amusement park. (Or when you were an adult and did it, for that matter.) On really good, productive days, I'll do much less.

I do almost always check in with Facebook in the morning to wish people a happy birthday. Corny, but again, I just love it on my birthday, and it's a pretty easy, friction-free thing to do.

8.  Colleen, you’re a prolific blogger and you’ve talked about writing a book. How do you juggle your writing schedule so that you can keep posting those wonderful essays and poems on your blog and still find time to write a book?

Well, now, really—you don't see a book yet, do you? So I'm not that good of a juggler after all, am I, now?

If you've been doing the math, I've had more time than an entire retirement village this year. I had zero clients! And one less blog to write for! (My year-long marketing blog experiment, virgoguidetomarketing.com, ended in 2009.) And still, no book!

I've tried all kinds of things to keep me on track with the book writing this year: a "morning write" workshop, a writers' group, commitments made to my mastermind group. Then, somewhere in November, I finally gave up and asked my hypnotherapist. He'd helped me get back on my Crohn's diet with ONE session. (It was a holy miracle, I tell you. I could drive past Jack In The Box with impunity.) So we worked for a few weeks on it, and he made me one recording to help me establish good time habits, and another booster recording to help me with chunking my day. Slowly, they're starting to make a difference; I don't always write a ton every day, and I definitely don't write great stuff every day, but I write. It's a start.

Also, an angel from the sky descended to this mortal plain to help me—a regular reader/fan of mine, who is in the business of editing and coaching writers through big projects. She offered her services to me in support and for the first time in my life, I accepted a gift with grace and humility. Again, it's a start.

9. For many of us, our definition of success changes over time. What will success look like for Communicatrix in 2011?

Well, I don't officially have to lock myself into something until mid-February, when my new calendar year starts. If I had to guess from here, though, I'd say success would be more contentment with what I've done rather than so much angst over what I haven't. That plus some quality visits with good friends. Although I wouldn't say "no" to a million-billion dollars in the bank and a friendly, well-behaved terrier/collie mix.

Website:  http://www.communicatrix.com/

Newsletter:  http://www.communicatrix.com/newsletter-archives

Marketing column for actors:  http://www.communicatrix.com/lacasting-articles

YouTube channel:  http://www.youtube.com/user/communicatrix

Colleen Wainwright is a writer-speaker-layabout who started calling herself “the communicatrix” when she hit three hyphens. She spent 10 years writing ads and another 10 acting in them for cash money. These days she spends most of her time teaching other creative souls how to talk about what they do in a way that wins them attention, work and satisfaction and the rest of it horsing around on the Internet.